The Tilma Family Blog

Going From Two to Three

// April 21st, 2009 // All Blog Posts

Since JD came along a few months ago, I have been asked numerous times what it is like going from two kids to three. I was never able to really answer that because I just didn’t know exactly how to describe it. But, as with many, many things, given enough time, clarity eventually rises to the surface. So here’s my take on it:

The difference between going from two to three kids is going from “constant” to “constantly constant.” There is a difference but it’s the same kind of ongoing commotion you experience with having two kids; it’s just a bit more amplified in a slightly different way when the third child comes along. I can only imagine that adding a fourth child would look something like “constantly constant consistently” and that going to five kids would simply be “just insanely constant”.

With each additional child, your management of “constant” becomes crucial to the ultimate success of your parenting. I have learned through trial and error, success and failure that you can either be “crazy constant” or “controlled constant.” The ultimate difference between the two at the end of the day is how much anxiety or genuine peace you feel in your house despite the hectic “constantness” of your day.